Through Self Care, you can learn to pinpoint what is holding you back and in turn, open yourself up to rapid transformation.
Self Care is the first step in learning how to navigate your spiritual journey and getting clear on your higher purpose.
In this area of development, we focus first on healing the self.
- What does the self need?
- What parts of the self are being rejected or hidden?
- How can we foster more self-love?
If we aren’t deeply connecting and accepting of the self, we won’t have clarity on what we want. If we don’t know what we want, it is very difficult to make any changes, let alone lasting ones.
Trauma typically has a big part to play here.
Today I want to show you four ways you can process and heal trauma, as well as deeply reconnect to yourself.
1. Work with a guide to help you reunite with the part of yourself that has been hurt.
Sometimes, working with someone else can help you process your trauma in unexpected ways, resulting in beg revelations.
Your trauma may not be affecting you how you thought it would.
When I finally started to look at my sexual trauma… I had never said it out loud to anyone. So having a safe space to do that for the first time was incredibly healing.
You can’t skip the step of getting your little one (or past self) out of that traumatic situation and into a safe place. Working with a guide or healer can also help facilitate this step.
You can’t just think about what you know about it or do talk therapy to heal it if the part of you that experienced trauma is still trapped in the situation, through soul loss or unprocessed emotion or whatever it might be.
That’s what opened the door for me to actually truly find and meet my little innocent one, whom I tried very hard to push away.
Such a big part of me believes that if I show up as my full self, I’ll get hurt (You can read more about that in Sacred Medicine.)
But remember, healing isn’t one and done.
We usually need a bit of a recovery period after we get our little one out. We need to give ourself time to recognize what happened, integrate the changes, and recalibrate our system.
2. Resist falling into the pattern of blaming others and becoming the victim.
When we know our trauma from our mind, there is a way we can kind of get stuck in it. We will keep playing out the victim story because that is all we know and that is what keeps us safe.
This can look like finding the one who did us wrong and blaming them or trying to bring them down. Blame is the most poisonous thing here because it either means it is their fault or our fault.
The truth is, no one is at fault.
We are constantly interacting with each other and moving in and out of agreements with each other.
Some that we made in this lifetime, some that we’ve had running for several lifetimes.
3. Accept the parts of yourself that remind you of who/what hurt you.
Another way we might counteract our trauma is to consciously or subconsciously try really hard to not be like the person who did the bad thing to us. This creates the shadow.
We think we don’t do the thing, but we do.
We are all human. We all do the same stuff.
If we don’t want them to control us, instead of pushing them away we have to include them. You have to include the part that wants to have fun, rebel, or be trapped.
As an example, another revelation I made on my path to self-healing was realizing how desperately I tried to avoid invading other people’s space.
I turned it into a shadow and thought I didn’t ever do it, but I absolutely still did. It was something I did subconsciously and I didn’t even realize it.
Once I could acknowledge I DID sometimes invade other people’s space, I didn’t have to spend so much energy pushing it away.
Now, not only am I more aware of when I am doing it, but more importantly, I can see how much I tried to keep myself distant from others so I wouldn’t hurt anyone.
I wouldn’t let my gifts out because I thought they were inherently bad. I see and know a lot when I read the field or read someone’s energy, so I thought I was bad for invading their space.
Now that I have done the personal work around that piece, I can bring my gift wholly into my business and use it in a productive, beneficial and beautiful way.
4. See the trauma as a teaching.
After doing my personal healing work and stepping out of the victim story, I began to see my experience in a whole new way.
Some of the gifts I have now were a reaction to my trauma.
While I wouldn’t wish trauma on anyone, I am really happy with the person I have become.
I would not be doing the work I am doing right now without it and I really love what I do.
I no longer need to hold my past as a trophy of what I’ve been through or see a secret past that I have to hide.
That is very liberating.
The final stage of healing is to see the teachings and how they fold into our larger path and purpose.
Why did we need to learn those lessons?
What do you know now that you wouldn’t know otherwise and how does it help you in your current life?
Self-healing isn’t just about where we were, it’s about where we are going.